Synchronistically, I received a comment from someone (below) addressed to a post I wrote back in 2011 about Empaths and Energy protection. It moved me to re-post the article, realizing that I need to read it again myself. I'm looking forward to the chance to be alone this summer, and to replenish my energies and revive my creativity. I have always pretty much known I'm an empath.
"How do you deal with those who are energetically parasitic? It seems like you and a couple other sources, seem to defend people who make choices to take on a victim mentality, and use manipulative tactics to steal energy and attention. I agree these people obviously lack love, but to some extent they need to realize that and take necessary steps towards healing, and emotional maturity...like people like us chose to do. Hard to support their habits...hard to understand why we support their victim mentality drain....please explain. Much love to you."
But I do believe that most people are unconscious of their motives, drives, attractions, or even needs. Self-awareness requires work, breaking old familial patterns requires effort, and sometimes to break those patterns requires a fair amount of education and the help of good therapy, as well as seeing through social patterns that often support negative behavior in order to come to terms with one's "shadow side". No one wants to admit that they are draining others, that they are dependant on others attention and energy, that they don't care about the well being of another as long as they are being "fed", that they are manipulating others, that they are destructive because of jealousy, addiction, etc.
The ability to change, to mature into real conscience and self sufficiency.........is actually something only exceptional people are able to do.
I know that sounds harsh, but I am tending to feel that the drift of our culture is increasingly away from self-examination, conscience, and empathy. The "disposibility" of our world has made that so. How else can such a vast population be uninterested in climate change, in the loss of endless species, in the destruction that future generations much live with? This is true in social relations as well.
As far as the energy draining "victim stance", I think also that is also often socially condoned. And of course it's necessary to make a distinction between people who are genuinely victimized by circumstances and in genuine need of healing and empowerment.
I'm talking about people who are "vampires" because of their unconcious dedication to seeing themselves as "victims". Which can not only be a ploy for exploiting the energy reserves of others, but is also somewhat socially accepted. If you are a "victim" you don't need to take responsibility for what you do or what happens to you, because it's "not your fault". Such people remain dependant children, unable to move forward - but they rarely are able to understand that process. You can get a lot of mileage from others by being a "victim", and you can also belong to victim social clubs that reinforce the sanctity of your eternally wounded position. If someone rejects you, it's because they are "unkind" and lack empathy.........and empaths are the best source of energy!